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    Emily Malone

    culinary arts grad. nutrition facts lover. vegetarian chef. marathon runner. country music maniac. failed dog trainer. barre fanatic. loving mama.

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    A Look Back.



The Road to Baby-Making.

Wow, guys – all I can say is THANKS!  Over six hundred comments and climbing, and I spent my afternoon doing nothing but reading each and every one of them with a ridiculous grin plastered to my face.  Even though I’m still riding the high, I’ll come down long enough to resume my regularly scheduled programming.

First things first, I assure you there will still be plenty of food and fitness discussion here – especially once I am feeling a bit better and my appetite returns.  Having a healthy, active, vegetarian pregnancy is something I am so passionate about and excited to share!  I will do my best to find a good balance of baby talk, and down the road I might even consider starting a separate blog – we’ll see.  For this week, it might be a bit baby heavy since there is so much I have been DYING to tell you guys!

When we told our families the good news last weekend, after tears and hugs, the first thing everyone wanted was THE STORY.  Was it expected?  Were we trying?  How did we find out?  I figured it would be just as appropriate to share the same info with you guys, since it sounds like so many of you are moms (or want to be moms eventually!) too.  Here goes…  (Warning: period talk ahead.)

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The Story

As a teenager, I was always ridiculously private and embarrassed about all things female.  While I know we girls all have our mortifying period stories, I took this to the extreme.  True story – when I was 18 and in college my freshman year, I didn’t have a car to take myself to the store and always had to go with friends.  I was SO humiliated that I needed to buy super plus tampons (when all my friends were buying normal regulars) that I called my mom crying and convinced her to mail them to me all year long.  You read that correctly – my mom mailed me tampons in college.  Oh, and she took them out of the box for me too, just to ensure no one knew what size they were.  Because that’s normal, right?  Thanks mom!  :)

Fast forward to life as an adult.  I did finally get over my fear of the dreaded tampon purchase, and (ironically) became a total over-sharer. 

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Casey and I got married in May 2009, and not long after we had the serious “when do we want kids” talk.  I had heard stories and rumors that it could take a long time to come off of birth control, especially for those that had been on it a long time.  Having taken the pill every month since I was newly 19, at 28 I was now staring 10 years of artificial hormones in the face.  I knew I didn’t feel ready for kids right then, but I decided to transition off of my birth control anyways, just to get my body ready in case it took a while to readjust.

Thank god I did.

I finished up my last birth control pack in November 2009.  Months came and went with no period.  I bought about 25 different pregnancy tests, convinced that I was pregnant on a weekly basis.  Finally in March 2010, five months later, I went to see a doctor who prescribed me a drug that would help induce my period.  But for some reason I didn’t take it.  I was already so upset that the BC had affected me so negatively, and taking the prescription had me wondering if I was headed down the path of infertility treatment too early.  I held onto the prescription for a week while I thought about what to do, but I never ended up taking it.

One week later, I got my period.  And I literally cried tears of joy.

I thought my worrying was over, knowing that my body was finally naturally producing a cycle.  And then April came and my period didn’t.  I felt like I was back to square one.  Somewhere in Mid-may, the cycle returned.  This pattern continued well through the summer and into August.  My periods were finally coming, but they were over 60 days apart, which (according to my internet research) meant I wasn’t actually ovulating.

Through it all, I never talked about it.  Casey knew I was having female issues, but for some reason I felt too humiliated to confront my problem.  For some reason I found myself completely embarrassed about what I was going through.  Here I was, claiming to be a role model for health and nutrition, and yet I felt like the basic function of my female body was not working.  I looked healthy on the outside, but felt broken and ashamed on the inside.

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Every month, I told myself I would give it one more month.  Every month I bought a pregnancy test, and every month it was negative.  I started keeping track of my period in my calendar, so that I would have accurate information once I was ready to re-face my doctor. 

And then suddenly, somewhere around last October, my cycles started coming more regularly.  Sixty days dropped to 40 days, and eventually became a steady 29 days.  I had three regular periods in a row and felt on top of the world.

But over the course of a year, I had been completely off of my birth control, doing what married people do, and still no pregnancy.  I knew after the one year mark I would need to face the truth.  I wasn’t emotionally ready to make the leap to charting, temperatures, and all of the other methods for trying to conceive.  I wanted to believe for some reason that I didn’t need that (which in hindsight makes NO sense).

We rung in 2011 excited for a new year, but I was also feeling a little hopeless about our future as parents.  On top of my personal embarrassment about (what I felt was) my failing body, I felt a strong sense of guilt that I might not be able to give Casey the babies that he so deserved.  Of course he told me that was absurd and he loved me regardless, but my own emotional baggage was heavily weighing me down.

In a last ditch effort – one month before I would turn 30 – I downloaded an ovulation tracker app for my phone (so high tech, I know!) and entered all of my recent cycle info.  The program (called My Days if anyone cares) used all my information to predict my ovulation dates, and when those dates rolled around – we did what we were supposed to do.  That was January.

February came and I anxiously awaited the day that my app told me I should get my period.  A few days prior, I had what I thought was the beginning of it, accompanied by sadness and tears.  But it only lasted a day, and then the signs were all gone.  Saturday came and I could just tell that my period was not coming.  In an already needed grocery trip, I threw a pregnancy test into the cart.  Due to the hundreds of dollars I had invested in tests all year long, this was not news or even eyebrow-raising to Casey.

Sunday came – still no period.  I wanted to do the test right then and there, but I knew mornings were best for accurate results.  I woke up Monday morning, crawled out of bed at 6am, and took the test.

The rest, as they say, is history

There is more to the story of telling Casey and the first few days that I plan to share later!  But in the interest of space, and your attention span, I thought for now I would just share my long journey down the road to getting pregnant.

Part of the reason I was so excited to spread the news so early is that for me, just knowing that I could GET pregnant was a huge blessing I wasn’t sure I would ever experience.  So as I said before, for better or for worse, this little raspberry-sized baby is a gift that we will never take for granted.

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Stacy @ Every Little Thing     at 9:20 pm

Yay I’m so happy for you! That is something I’m REALLY worried about. I’ve been on BC for 10+ years as well. I’m generally fairly well-balanced as far as hormones go but I’m very worried I won’t be able to get pregnant or that something will be wrong. I’m so glad things turned out well for you two though!

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Maryea {Happy Healthy Mama}     at 9:23 pm

Thanks so much for sharing your story. Young women really need to understand what birth control pills can do to their bodies. My doctor put me on the pill in HIGH SCHOOL because I had irregular periods. Hello? I was an athlete! I just wish doctors would be more hesitant to prescribe the pill and let young girls know that there can be long term effects.

Congrats, again, Emily! I look forward to following your pregnancy journey.

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chelsey @ clean eating chelsey     at 9:24 pm

This story made my heart melt. Right now I am in the “I am so glad I went off birth control before I decided I wanted to have babies” stage. It has been 13 months since I have had a period. I am very open about it, but I am totally destroyed that my body is as you put it, failing me. My doctor prescribed me provera, but I told her I refused to take it and that I think there is something else wrong. She wouldn’t believe me. So, now I am in the process of going to a infertility/hormonal endocrinologist to figure out if there is any underlying causes to this. Part of me feels so frustrated because I am so young (23), but part of me feels so happy I am taking care of this problem before the Husband and I want to have kids.

I loved reading this story! I can’t wait to hear more details!

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Tracy Reply:

Chelsey, I’m in the same boat as you – I’ve been off the pill for a year but haven’t had a period in a year and a half. Dr.’s can’t figure it out – it is SO frustrating! just wanted to let you know you are not alone and I feel your pain. Hang in there!

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Mary Reply:

Ditto, I’m in the exact same boat with no period off bc, it’s been about a year for me. Similar to yall, I don’t want to take the hormones my doctor prescribed me to jump start it. So I’m just waiting… stay strong, girls!

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Nikki Reply:

13 months for me too of not having a period after going off birth control. I had an ultrasound and I am healthy so it must be birth control and my active lifestyle. Does no period mean no ovulation?

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chelsey @ clean eating chelsey Reply:

From what I understand, no period = no ovulation. UNLESS there is something actually physically blocking the way of your period actually happening.

I get cramps like nobody’s business which is why I think something else is going on. Hopefully the new doctor will do an ultrasound to see what’s going on!

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Emily Malone Reply:

That is my understanding too, but of course I am not a doctor!

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Tanya @ Vegan Faith Reply:

It seems like Provera is the go-to drug for doctors and I also didn’t want to take it. It makes me happy to hear that others are doing the same. Maybe if enough of us ask for a more holistic approach to diagnosis the doctor’s will hear us. I am currently seeking out a doctor that will be more open to listening to my concerns and approaching me without hormones. I, however have never been on BC so I’m not sure what is causing mine at all!

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Sonia Reply:

Me too!! I FINALLY was diagnosed with pcos. I don’t fit the “typical” pcos profile so it took seeing an endocrinologist (and a LOT of persistence that something was wrong and I’m not crazy!!!) to be diagnosed! I was put on bc in hs for “heavy irregular periods” but it took going off of bc for the symptoms to arise (generally the tx for pcos is bc if you are not trying to become pregnant. And be persistent! My obgyn finally agreed to test my hormone levels after almost 2 years without period and found I produced basically no progesterone (which is responsible for ovulation). I do think women need to be made aware of the risks of long tern sythetic hormone usage!

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Shanna Reply:

I don’t usually comment on blogs, but I wanted to share my story. I was on BCP for 10 years, and it took me a full year to get my period after I got off the pill. My doctors were perplexed because I am fit, trim, and healthy and my blood tests and ultrasound were normal. I took one round of provera, but refused to take anymore — it seemed to me that artificial hormones were the problem, not the solution. So I began researching holistic, natural things I could do to get my period back. I did 2 months of acupuncture treatments and took the herbs that my acupuncturist recommended (which tasted nasty). I also cut out sugar, ate less carbs, and ate a lot more good fat like nuts and fish. After those 2 months, I got a period! And my cycles have been slowly getting back to normal ever since. I cannot say enough good things about acupuncture!

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Mastering Public Health (@MasPublicHealth) Reply:

Thank you for sharing your success with acupuncture, Shanna. Some people contest the benefits of acupuncture so your experience is very interesting and nice to hear!

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kathleen     at 9:25 pm

emily,

i am SO happy you wrote this post. as someone struggling with infertility, it is hard to hear that others are pregnant. of course as a loyal blog reader i am beyond happy for you, but those feelings come with jealousy and (embarrassingly enough) a little resentment. this reaction, though, was rooted in my assumption that this just came easily for you and i once again wondered… why is it so easy for everyone but me? this post was a huge wake up call for me that it is NOT easy for everyone else, other people struggle, and just because you do not hear about it, does not mean the fight is not there. so thank you, thank you, thank you :) i look forward to following you on your amazing pregnancy journey.

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anna Reply:

^ ditto. To all of it. Congratulations Emily! Good luck to you, Kathleen.

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chelsey @ clean eating chelsey Reply:

I’m not even trying, but I still get that twinge of jealousy because I have period problems, so I am already convinced it’s going to be difficult to conceive. I love hearing others stories too because I always thing it’s just a one time shot for others! :)

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Emily Malone Reply:

I totally understand how you feel. It was really hard for me to put my own emotions aside and be excited for my sister when she told me she was pregnant. Listening to my mom cry and say “thank you for giving me a grandchild” truly broke my heart. But of course, neither of them knew since I had kept quiet about it all. It is totally normal to feel a range of emotions all at once.

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sallymae Reply:

For sure ladies! My big sis (she’s 34) just announced she is pregnant after 12 years of marriage!!!! I am so over the moon excited for her that I actually forgot that my husband and I are trying to conceive (with little luck so far do to crazy wacked out “same as Malone” cycles;) She was super worried that I would be jealous, but I know it’s “her” time…and mine will be here soon enough!

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Shelley     at 9:26 pm

I didn’t comment on the last post (I saw it when you “only” had 300 comments!) so congratulations!

And thank you for sharing this story, its something I’ve been worried about too, as I’ve been on BC for over 14 years! It’s great to read someone’s experience, and I’m looking forward to following your journey as it plays out!

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Beth @ Beth's Journey to Thin     at 9:26 pm

Wow Emily thank you so much for sharing your story! I think the fear of not being able to get pregnant is many women’s WORST fear – I know it’s one of mine. I’m so glad your story has a happy ending. Congratulations again! I’m so excited to read about your pregnancy. :)

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Kaci     at 9:26 pm

This is so beautiful. I’m so thankful to read your blog everyday and to learn so much from you. With that said, I am beyond excited to be a part of this whole process. =]

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Caitlin     at 9:26 pm

CONGRATS!!! Thank you for sharing your story. I can totally relate – even though I am a few years away from having kids, these are things I am already thinking about and I love that you are sharing your experience. So happy for you!!

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Maryann     at 9:26 pm

Thanks for sharing your story! I am so glad everything worked out for you :) I was only on the pill for 3 years and it took me 9 months to get my period back, and now I am only getting it once every two months so you’re making me think that maybe I’m not ovulating. Either way its ok because I am not trying to get pregnant right now! And congrats again!! Can’t wait to hear the rest of the details :)

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Anna @ Doing Good & Living Well     at 9:26 pm

Girl, you are gonna make me get weepy over here! What a wonderful post. Again, I’m so thrilled for you and Casey and I CANNOT wait to see how adorable you are when you start to show! Can we please go for walks when it starts to warm up?!

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Nikki     at 9:28 pm

I went off birth control pills over a year ago and still no period. I worried like you but my OBGYN says this is fairly normal and that when it comes time that I want to get pregnant, there is a pill to take that will help. Who knows, maybe I won’t even need it!

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Karis (Karis' Kitchen)     at 9:29 pm

It’s so awesome that you’ve shared your story, and going off birth control pills is such an important lesson. It took a year and provera for my cycles to become regular. Two years later, I’m still not pregnant, but hopefully my story too will have a happy ending.

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Alissa     at 9:29 pm

I love your blog, and although I’ve never posted before, I couldn’t stop myself this time. Congratulations!! I had two healthy vegetarian pregnancies and now have two vegetarian little boys- both born on Oct 14th- just two years apart!

As it gets closer, check out hiring a birth doula to support you through the birth process. Well worth it!

Best of luck in this journey!

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Leah Reply:

October 14 is my wedding anniversary! Also, my aniv of dating (we’ve been together nearly 17 years–since High School). :) Glad to hear your boys share the special 10/14 day.

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maria @ Chasing the Now     at 9:29 pm

Congrats Emily. I think people who have trouble getting pregnant are much more thankful, so I am sure there is a reason you’ve gone through all of this. It’s a shame so many women who don’t want kids and don’t take care of them are able to pop them out one after another and women who would love nothing more than a baby can’t.

Still thinking good thoughts for you!

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Ginna Reply:

Maria – I couldn’t agree with you more! As a woman who has my own infertility issues it is just heart breaking when other women just wind up pregnant and really take it for granted! I would give anything to be in their shoes!

Emily- you are so lucky you didn’t need infertility treatments. It is so emotionally draining! Send some baby dust my way please! So excited for you guys! Thanks for sharing!

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Jenn Reply:

All these comments are making me cry, which is not good because I already have my makeup on and I am ready for work.
I, like so many of you, have the same problem with irregular periods. I have been told it is my fault because I love to exercise. When you are already hurting like I am, it is the final nail in the coffin when people make it feel like it is your fault.
My husband and I started the adoption process and within the past few months I have been getting my period somewhat regularly.
Thank you Emily for sharing your story and reminding me that I am not alone. I share the same feelings as many of your readers; I was jealous with your pregnancy announcement and it brought up a lot of feelings that I have been working through. I have that jealousy clouds my ability to be happy for people at the most exciting time in their lives.

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Ginna Reply:

Jenn – your feelings are totally valid and any woman with infertility issues feels the exact same way you do. I would make sure you do seek professional help or a second opinion, there could be other things going on with you. Lots of women do not ovulate on their own and you just might need medical help for that, nothing wrong with that! I know plenty of women who didn’t ovulate on their own and that was their infertility issue. With medical help they all became mothers! I can feel your frustration in a different way – I was on BCPs for 7 years and my cycles have always been regular. I ovulate on my own every month and no other medical issues have been found with either myself or my husband. So every women is different. It is so great to have Emily share her story because we don’t always hear how hard it is for other women. Really puts things in perspective. Good luck to you!

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cookienurse     at 9:31 pm

I loved your story yesterday and love this one too! So happy for you, can’t wait to hear more!
Blessings to you!!

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bridget     at 9:32 pm

So very happy for you … and thank you for sharing your private special story with all of us who thrive on your posts (food related or not)… hugs and best wishes from new mexico xxoo

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Cindy     at 9:33 pm

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so excited for you!

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Allie (Live Laugh Eat)     at 9:34 pm

Just today, I’ve heard some many stories of ladies struggling to conceive. Isn’t it crazy how some girls get pregnant as teenagers their very first time while there are deserving parents like you and Casey willing and ready to have a baby? Anyways, the lesson I’ve learned is to not be embarrassed about infertility. It may be hard to talk about but more people struggle with it than people know!

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Amanda     at 9:34 pm

What a great post. Thank you for sharing and being so honest. I want to start doing more research on birth control and going off of it (once we get married). I’ve heard mixed things…your story took me completely by surprise because my aunt went off BC in June and is due next month! Our bodies work in mysterious ways. The timing is bound to be perfect, and although I know you went through a ton of stressful moments, there’s a reason you are pregnant now! I’m so glad it all worked out for you.

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Jennie     at 9:34 pm

That is a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. My husband and I have been trying for a few months and I definitely get down on myself for not getting pregnant right away (like many of my friends who got pregnant the first or second month they tried). Your story definitely gives me a lot of hope! You are going to be a wonderful mother and I look forward to reading your blog through your journey to motherhood :)

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Brittany @ a healthy slice of life     at 9:34 pm

I love your honesty in this post! I went off bc after 10 years for the same reason (wanted to know what would happen) and my period didn’t come back for a year!! Um so glad I didn’t go off the pill wanting kids right away. Congrats again!

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Gabriela @ Une Vie Saine     at 9:35 pm

Thank you for sharing this!! I’ve read a few other posts in a similar vein, and it’s made me realize that BC is not something I want to be on for much longer. At this point in my life it’s the only convenient option, and I’m absolutely not ready to have kids any time soon, but I know that I’ll be off it in a few years max, just because I don’t want to damage my body long term. I’m so thrilled for you and Casey, congrats again!!

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Jessica     at 9:36 pm

Congratulations, Emily! I know that you and your husband will make fabulous parents. Your baby couldn’t be luckier :-)

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Brittney     at 9:37 pm

Thanks for sharing this Emily! I’m trying to get pregnant (Jen might have told you) and can’t get enough information on the subject. The whole process is so nerve-racking and emotionally draining and I’ve just started! I for one, do want to hear more about your pregnancy journey, so I hope you’ll continue to share more with us :) I’m so happy for you!!

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Karen     at 9:37 pm

Congrats!!!!

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Clare     at 9:39 pm

Emily I’m so glad you shared your story. I went through almost exactly what you did (long term pill use, missing period, emotional roller coaster because I convinced myself I was infertile). At the time I thought that something was dreadfully wrong with me because all the doctors and info available said that periods usually return pretty quickly–well, quite often they don’t and I’m sure there are tons of women out there who are going through exactly the same thing. My periods did eventually return to normal but it was really worrying at the time. I have now had three healthy babies and am better educated about the pill–I think it’s great but for a lot of women it takes a while to get back to normal once you come off it.

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Whitney     at 9:39 pm

I have been reading your blog for a little while, but I have never commented. Thanks so much for sharing your story! I am pretty much going through what you did right now, and it was so encouraging to hear your journey and that there is hope. Congratulations!

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Rosie     at 9:40 pm

Wow Emily! so much happening behind the scenes. I’m really glad you got over these hurdles, and as you say, whatever happens, you know you *can* get pregnant. You are amazing! best of luck xxx

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Christina     at 9:40 pm

I had a similar experience when coming off of the pill. I stopped taking the pill about 2 years ago and we’re going to start trying now. The reason we waited so long was because I was on the pill for about 15 years and I just needed my body to adjust, needless to say it took a really long time. I’m so happy for you, it’s a joy that’s unexplainable. At least that’s what I hear ;)

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Stephanie @ LiveCookLove     at 9:41 pm

I’m so glad you are sharing your story. I’m not married yet but I probably spend an abnormal amount of time wondering if I’m going to be able to get pregnant naturally. I just feel like all my life I’ve wanted to be a mom that I’m scared it won’t happen! I know I just need to put it out of my mind for now but it’s hard sometimes! But anyways, can’t worry about that until it’s time to :) and way to leave it at a cliff-hanger!! Jeeze!! I hope you post again about babies soon :) congrats again!

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Andrea @ Run, Eat, Date, Sleep     at 9:42 pm

I love your story, and I’m so happy for you! I’m fertility-challenged, and I’ve known since I was 18, so my clock has been ticking ultra fast now that I’m almost 30 and not married! Reading your happy story made me so emotional.

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Amber from Girl with the Red Hair     at 9:42 pm

This is such a cute story! Congrats again – so, so exciting for you guys!

I have been on birth control for about 8 years now, but I’ve NEVER stacked my pills so I still get my period every month (go off my pills or take sugar pills for 7 days). I just don’t like the idea of stacking my pills for a long time and never getting a period – I had no idea so many people do it actually!

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Z Reply:

Hey, this was surprising to me too! I didn’t know that a lot of women out there were stacking their pills. I’m with you on this, I get mine every month.

I’m not an OBGYN, but I just graduated from medical school (I’m going into Pediatrics). However, I did complete some training in OBGYN. The OBGYN doctors I worked with always said it was important to have at least 4 periods/year to slough off the tissue to avoid the build-up of tissue inside the uterus which may someday lead to endometrial cancer. So, that alone would scare me about stacking my pills.

Then again, I’m no expert.. I would say to check with a doctor first.

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Emily Malone Reply:

I never did any pill stacking either – got a “period” every month. But my understanding about birth control is that the period you get between packs is not a natural period – it is hormonally induced. So having a period on the pill is definitely not an indicator of having one OFF the pill. Just something to be aware of as you make your own choices!

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Z Reply:

Hey Emily – Yup, that is correct. Even though birth control pills stops the ovaries from ovulating, it does not completely stop the uterus’ endometrial cycle, pills only lightens it (hence why we still have a period on the pills).

As women, I think our bodies and its processes are so special and complex. I think it is fitting that you posted this and brought up these discussions today, the 100th Anniversary of International Woman’s Day :)

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Jenn     at 9:43 pm

Congratulations to the both of you! Admittedly, I’ve followed your blog religiously for the past several months, but this is my first comment. For various reasons, I was never supposed to be able to have children and on 12-15-10, I gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy!!! I spent my entire pregnancy panicked and paranoid that something bad would happen…if I could turn back the clock, I would cherish every moment of it. Now is your chance to enjoy every minute of your pregnancy and get ready for your little miracle baby!!! I’m so happy for you.

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Deva (Voracious Vorilee)     at 9:45 pm

This is such a sweet story, I can’t wait to hear more!!

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Hannah     at 9:45 pm

Thanks for sharing your story. I went on the pill at 17 because I thought it was the “right” and only thing to do. Now I’m almost 20 and I know that I don’t want to be on the pill for 5 or 10 years like many women are. I can see clearly into my 20′s and I know that I want children, and I want to avoid having these problems if possible. When I brought this up to my doctor she acted like I was crazy for thinking of babies or wanting to go off the pill! I’ll stay on it for now, but I know it isn’t what I want long-term.

I should add that I am NOT a pill-hater. In fact, I have had almost NO negative side effects from it, and plenty of positive ones! I think the important thing is that all women (whether 15 or 50 years old) should be educated about how it works. After all, it is still a relatively new development in medicine and — like you say, we might not know it’s long term effects.

Did you have regular cycles before starting the pill at 19?

Congratulations again to you and Casey! I can’t wait to follow your story.

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Emily Malone Reply:

I’m not a pill-hater either, but I think there should be a lot more education about it, particularly when it is prescribed to teenagers for acne, cramps, etc. Long term effects are serious and should be considered. Knowing what I know now, I will never go back on them.

My cycles were normal before the pill, although I can’t say I kept track of them very well as a teenager.

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Sarah B. Reply:

I’m also curious to know about the regular cycles before the pill, if you don’t mind sharing. :) I worry about this because I never had them before I went on birth control, and I’m on my 6th year of birth control now thinking about when I want to go off of it.

Congrats Emily, and thanks so much for sharing this!

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Emily Malone Reply:

Just replied above! Cycles were “normal” but very heavy.

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Sarah B. Reply:

Oops! Thanks. :)

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Leah Reply:

I would ask your doctor about Nuvaring. I’ve been on it since 2002 after problems with the pill. It’s a lower dose solution. I have trouble believing people still take the pill with all that it does to your body. I know Nuvaring still uses hormones…but the levels are lower. It’s more per month compared to the pill, but better for your body.

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Sarah B. Reply:

I’ve actually been on Nuvaring most of the last five years. Hopefully that means it will be easier to transition off. We’ll just have to wait and see I guess. :)

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Hannah Reply:

The nuvaring doesn’t really appeal to me. I could do some more research though.. in general I have been spotting for the past 4 or 5 months STRAIGHT. I am on Gianvi (generic of Yaz) which has a relatively low dose of estrogen, which might be causing the spotting. It seems like the Nuvaring would cause this too if it has the low hormones, but I will look into it! Thanks for suggesting. I am very hesitant to put more/stronger hormones into my body! I love having this community of women :)

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Leslie     at 9:46 pm

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I went off the pill last April and have been experiencing 60+ day cycles too. I’ve been charting all along, and it’s been fascinating to see how my body is *trying* to ovulate (hormones/temperature spike up, but not to the threshold needed to actually ovulate).

I hope that I’ll have a more regular cycle by the end of the year, when we hope to start trying. I can’t wait to read about your active, healthy vegetarian pregnancy!

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Sarah K. @ The Pajama Chef     at 9:47 pm

thanks for sharing your story!

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Kristen     at 9:49 pm

Gosh, I feel so fortunate to not have had those same problems. However, I know my SIL went off the pill about a year ago, and still has not had normal periods. It’s hard to hear what she is going through, so I will probably pass this one to her just to tell her she’s not alone.

Such an exciting time in your life! So very happy for you and can’t wait to hear how you told Casey and everyone else!

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Danielle     at 9:49 pm

As I’m sure you’ve been hearing over and over, you are certainly not alone in your struggle! While I’ve never been on birth control, I do have PCOS, and I went the entire past year without getting a period. After living most of my adolescence and 20s getting very regular periods, learning about my condition was a very difficult reality! And I can certainly relate to your feelings of guilt and abnormality, as you begin to think that your body can’t even do what it’s “supposed” to do, and that you might not be able to produce children for your partner. I started taking a PCOS medication called Metformin, and then took 10 days of Progesterone. Finally, about 2 months after all of this, my period came. I was in a public restroom, and I began crying and calling the women closest to me. I even wrote an e-mail to announce the news to my closest girlfriends! Anyway, totally normal behavior on your end, and I’m so happy you were able to conceive. Prayers for a very healthy and happy pregnancy!

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Lauren     at 9:50 pm

Emily..

First of all, congrats! I almost fell over yesterday when I read your pregnancy post….my husband and I found out we were pregnant on Sunday!! Anyway…I am an avid reader of your blog and about two months ago I started eating an all vegetarian diet. I can’t wait to see you discuss nutrition and exercise with pregnancy. Thank you for this post also- makes me realize how blessed we are to be able to have a baby.

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Betty     at 9:51 pm

and having your accident in the middle of all this – poor baby –

Congrats to both of you , and we know you’ll take care of yourself -

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Jenny     at 9:51 pm

Hi Emily!

I have never commented before, but I just wanted to tell you that I think you are amazing!! Congratulations to you and Casey :) I am sure everything will be just perfect! Are you still planning on running the half marathon? I had to drop out after rolling my ankle during a volleyball game in December. It has taken me two+ months to run my 1st of 3 miles this past weekend. A small victory, but it felt amazing to be running pain free again!

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Vanessa     at 9:52 pm

Congrats! I’m very happy for the both of you. I look forward to seeing posts about food and baby!

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Lisa     at 9:54 pm

Emily, I think it is wonderful that you’re sharing your story! It’s great to read about others’ paths to pregnancy. My husband and I thought we would have a lot of trouble getting pregnant because of how long I had been on birth control. I was never great at taking it at the same time, I would double up on days so I figured if I still wasn’t pregnant AND I wasn’t following instructions, clearly I must have a fertility problem. I went off the pill 2 months before our wedding and we’re now expecting a honeymoon baby! :-) No one was more shocked than me, I did not think our path to pregnancy would be so short. There are fertility problems in my family history so I grew up thinking that I would have difficulty getting pregnant and had even made peace with the fact that it might not happen naturally or adoption would be the way we’d have a family. I haven’t closed the door on the possibilty of an adoption someday, but I am so very grateful that I am able to experience pregnancy and am not taking one day for granted. You just never know what will happen! SO SO happy for you and Casey :-)

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Olena     at 9:54 pm

Emily, you’re truly inspirational for disclosing issues that trouble all of us but only the bravest have the guts to share. Bravo!
You will have the most adorable baby and we’ll read stories about him or her gobbling down your oatmeal :)

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Sarah @ The Strength of Faith     at 9:55 pm

Oh my gosh – I’m sobbing. It must feel amazing to get all of this out right now.

Praying for a safe, happy and healthy pregnancy!

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Alaina     at 9:55 pm

Oh, I am so glad that everything worked out for you! :-) You two are going to have such adorable children!

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Lee     at 9:56 pm

I’m so excited for you guys!

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Amy     at 9:57 pm

Your “I know I am getting my period” is so much like my own experience. What additional joy and shock comes from not getting it and getting that positive test result. Congrats again and I very much look forward to hearing all about it. Your blog has always been a favorite and I am sure will only get better with the new adventure.

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Sarena (The Non-Dairy Queen)     at 9:58 pm

Congratulations Emily! I am so happy for you two! Thank you for sharing your story. I think it is just as important to share the hard stuff as it is to share the good stuff. We all learn from each other and whe you hit a bad spot, it’s nice to know you aren’t alone. It’s also so nice to hear happy stories that come from the harder stuff. I wish you so much health and happiness!

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Jayna @ HealthyLivingBites     at 9:58 pm

What a wonderful story (because it has a happy ending)! I had a completely different experience, I got pregnant with my first ON BIRTH CONTROL, then my second the first month we weren’t preventing (though not actually trying yet). I share that because I see a lot of concern from people wondering if they should get off the pill. You never know exactly how your body will react. Did your mom have trouble conceiving? Turns out my mom got pregnant on bcp too so fertility runs in our family!

Thinking about trying for our second my biggest fear was not being able to conceive (followed shortly by never having a daughter), I can’t imagine the rollercoaster this ride has been for you! Healthy fertility and pregnancy is a topic near and dear to my heart so if you have any questions or just want to talk, I’m here.

Bring on the baby talk! Don’t you know I’m living the next year and a half or so vicariously through you? Lol

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Michelle (Housewife in the Raw)     at 10:00 pm

Congratulations to you! I was only on the pill for about 3 years and had no problem coming off of it 6 years ago. That said, I’ve never taken another one. There are other methods of birth control that are much less chemical.

I look forward to following your pregnancy! I’m a mama to 2 (5 and 2) and I love reading bloggers experiencing pregnancy and motherhood for the first time.

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Vanessa     at 10:01 pm

Even though we’ve never met, I, like others, feel like I know you from reading your blog. Can I just say I am SO happy for you guys!! I can’t think of anyone more deserving of this gift than you!! I can’t wait to hear all about this journey!!

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Nicole @ Of Cookies and Carrots     at 10:05 pm

AHHH congratulations! That is so fabulous. :) I’ve never been on BC but after reading everyone’s posts about it I”m kind of hesitant lol (I’m 20). I may have some issues getting pregnant when teh time comes regardless…

Wishing you all the best :)

<3
n

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Cassandra     at 10:06 pm

Even though babies are currently not on my radar yet, I think it’s amazing that you’re sharing your story with us. I feel like I know you, and I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling grateful that you would consider sharing your journey with us. I’m so excited to keep reading, and I wish you and Casey all the luck and joy in the world!

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Mara @ What's For Dinner?     at 10:07 pm

I missed your post yesterday, and I just wanted to say that I’m SOOO excited for you!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!

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Reading (and chickens)     at 10:08 pm

I’m a little late to the party, but congratulations! Just wait until the ultrasounds–they take your breath away!

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Tina     at 10:09 pm

Despite the fact that this post is a lot of period talk it still brought a smile to my face and made me go “awww”. I’m excited to read about your journey and I doubt that anyone will get bored from posts that steer into this direction!

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Annie@stronghealthyfit     at 10:18 pm

Amazing post, Emily! So happy for you and Casey. I am aware of how long it can take for women’s bodies to get back to normal cycles and ovulation after being on birth control for so long, and I’m thinking of going off of it soon. Thanks for sharing your experience!

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Brooke     at 10:19 pm

Wow- maybe that car accident was divine intervention! Looks like keeping your running shoes off your feet was what finally did it. Running jacks up my period like nobody’s business; before I started running my schedule was so regular I could predict the hour that I was getting my period. Either way… congrats!!

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sallymae Reply:

wow, I never would have made that correlation, but you could totally be right. Too much exercise can elevate our stress hormone cortisol and when we have too much stress our bodies are in fight/flight it kind of shuts down our basic functions (like periods and ovulation). It’s hard because we all have been told we need to exercise to be healthy, but for women we actually need a bit more fat on our bodies….

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Emily Malone Reply:

I can’t say for sure, but I don’t think my running had an impact on my cycle. I talked to my doctor about it, who assured I was at a very healthy body weight and size, and that my activity level was good. I think it had just to naturally work itself out.

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Krista Reply:

I was thinking the same thing. Your body got to relax a little after the accident (meaning no exercise) and maybe that is what it needed to straighten itself out. So happy for you!

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C     at 10:24 pm

Emily, I can’t tell you how thankful I am that you shared this story. I am going through these same issues right now, and am having the same feelings of shame, stress, and guilt that you described. It gives me such hope to hear that others have been where I am now and have had a positive outcome. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for you to share all these details, so thank you!!

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Angela     at 10:26 pm

I’m sorry that you had to go through that time, but so incredibly happy things worked out. I didn’t comment on the last post (didn’t read both until today), so Congratulations, as well! YAY for the both of you! :)

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sallymae     at 10:30 pm

I haven’t read through all of the previous comments, so maybe this is echoed above, but I too have had basically THE SAME thing happen to me. I have been worried/ashamed and have gotten false diagnoses of PCOS and too much stress. I’ve been worried I was eating too much or exercising too much….Your story gives me hope;) Thank you!

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Alyson     at 10:33 pm

Heartiest and most sincere congratulations. When the “beautiful baby” post came up in google reader, something was wonky—the pictures wouldn’t load and the text was skewed, so I skipped the post and thought I’d come back to it next time. And then, of course, forgot. So this was the first I heard of your pregnancy, and then I went back and read the other post.

I am thrilled for you. I love motherhood from the tips of my toes to the top of my head—I’d have to, I suppose, to have been pregnant seven times. You are entering what I think is the best, most fulfilling part of life. I know not everyone agrees; not everyone has seven babies either. And my last four pregnancies were vegan or ovo-vegetarian, so I’m excited to watch how yours progresses in that way, too.

Congratulations. So happy for you! :)

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Michelle     at 10:34 pm

You are so brave for sharing your story! I have been motivated to donate my eggs for a few years after hearing stories like this, and of infertility. I was inspired to blog about my journey after reading YOUR blog! If you’re interested here’s a link: http://mydeviledeggs.blogspot.com. Good luck to you, Casey, and little one!

-Michelle

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mere     at 10:35 pm

Your post yesterday made me smile! I am surrounded by pregnant women right now, so I love all the baby talk. It *almost* makes me want one, too!

Do you think it is possible all the running screwed with your period? And maybe slowing down after the accident allowed your body to decide it could do this? Just a thought.

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Stephanie     at 10:42 pm

I love the honesty and emotion that comes along with your posts. I’m so happy for you guys!

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Ally (oatsandspice)     at 10:44 pm

Congrats on the pregnancy – how exciting! I loved hearing your period story because I have had very irregular periods my entire life (or lack there of) – I probably get only a few times a year and have been on and off birth control and progesterone – I hope I can be as lucky as you someday!

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Sarah     at 10:53 pm

Hi Emily,

I am a frequent reader but rare commenter. First of all a HUGE congrats to you and Casey. Amazing news.

I think it is fantastic that you are sharing your story. From the comments, it is obvious that so many of your readers are in the same demographic and are very interested in all things baby.

I went on BC pills when I was 17 because I was taking Accutane. My face breaking out has always been an issue for me so I’ve always stayed on BC ever since (even during long periods of time when I didn’t “need” it.) Anyways, I am now 29 and soon to be married and a bit worried about having been on the pill for 12 years. We are not planning on kids for 3 or so years but I’m wondering if I should try and rid my body of the pill as soon as possible. Did you doc say it was normal for it to take so long for your cycle to regulate?

Anyways, best of luck to you and I’m so happy you’ll be sharing your journey with your readers.

Sarah

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Nicole @ Vegan in the House     at 10:54 pm

Great story…after you have the baby, you should consider the rhythm method. It’s so easy, you basically just avoid intercourse during ovulation. There is even an iphone app for it that we use called “maybe baby.” My husband has it downloaded on his phone too so he can keep track of whether he has the “green light” that day. We’ve used this method for 6 years between our children.

By the way, Happy Fat Tuesday!
Please check out my red beans and rice post.
Thanks, Nicole

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Katie KS     at 10:55 pm

If I had time and no need for income, research into long-term pill use and writing about it is one thing I want to do. I have seen more women than I can count have issues like you describe and most do end up needing fertility treatments. I think doctors put way too many teenagers on the pill for bad reasons. I do not get taking the pill because you don’t get a period (as happens to many)… so then when you go off it, why in the world WOULD you get a period? (Not you, Emily, the general “you.”) It’s a huge issue of mine. I can say I’ve never used hormonal birth control and never plan too, yet my first two pregnancies (which were charted and temped and OPKd) took about 8 months each anyways. This one was one month after the second pregnancy miscarried, and I feel so blessed being that I turned 35 between the miscarriage and the current pregnancy!

Thanks for sharing your story!

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Anita @ Set on Running     at 10:56 pm

You are going to make great parents. Congrats to you and Casey.

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Jessica     at 11:02 pm

Congratulations on your pregnancy! As someone who hopes to some day have a healthy vegetarian pregnancy, I’m looking forward to reading about yours.

I also really appreciate that you shared your story. It’s not something I’ve heard a lot of people share, and it’s making me re-think my current plans. I’ve been on birth control for almost 7 years now. My husband and I aren’t planning on having kids right away, but I always thought that you just had to be off of it for 3 months before getting pregnant. Reading your story and those of other commenters, I’m seeing that being on BC for so long can really mess with your body and your cycle.

I definitely agree this is something that more women should be educated about.

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Ginna Reply:

Jessica – every woman is different. Most often they tell you to give at least 3 months off the pill before even trying to help regulate your cycles so you can pinpoint your due date. I worked in a women’s clinic last year and saw it all. Some women take a while off it and some women don’t – I have had several friends get pregnant the month they got off the pill. Of course as well, normally conceiving can take a year (on average) for most couples with the woman under 35. There are many other factors that can still influence fertility even if you have normal cycles off the pill. The pill is actually the easiest BC method to come off of to achieve pregnancy (versus depo, etc.).

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Amy     at 11:10 pm

Congrats and thanks so much for sharing your story! I’m in sort of the same boat and every time I hear things like this it gives me a litle more hope! All the best for a happy and healthy pregnancy! Look forward to hearing more about your journey!

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Lisa     at 11:12 pm

Emily,
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m a nurse and worked in a fertility clinic for awhile. It drives me crazy when people assume that just because you’re not over 40 years old that of course you’ll get pregnant the first month you try! I have some medical things which may or may not have had their hand in our pregnancy timetable. But anyway, congratulations and thanks for sharing!!! :)

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Maggie @ A Bitchin' Kitchen     at 11:14 pm

Just one more congratulatory message for you!

I only discovered your blog back during project food blog, and I almost feel like I know you after reading your archives and keeping up with your daily posts. I can tell that you and Casey will make amazing parents, and I’m so excited to hear all your pregnancy stories!

Best wishes to you both.

- Maggie

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Alexa @ The Girl In Chucks     at 11:19 pm

First of all, I know what you mean about super plus tampons!! lol. My period was always so much heavier than anyone else I knew. All of my friends could sleep in tampons, but unless I backed up with a pad, I couldn’t for the first day or two. Such heavy, miserable cycles was what brought me to first getting on HBC. I wasn’t even sexually active for first few years I was on it…it was just that savior pill that meant I was just a “regular” girl! ;)

Next, I am really interested in your struggle with coming off of the pill. I -just- came off of it 5 weeks ago. I’m not trying to conceive…actually I’m not sure if a baby is right for me. What it is for me is that I’m sick of artificial hormones and how every couple of years I’d find a need to change prescriptions due to weird side effects that would show up out of the blue and be really difficult to deal with. I finally just decided that enough was enough and I was going to try and see if I could handle my “real” cycle now that I am healthier and at a more reasonable weight.

So here I sit, waiting for my period…and it isn’t here. I had horrible PMS two weeks ago…and then nothing. It perplexes me because during the 6 years I was on the pill, I did occasionally have a month off here and there and it always came regardless…but not this time. I think I’ve been careful, and I’m sure I’m fine…but the waiting game is driving me bonkers!

Ah, to be a woman!

On the plus side, I see at Walgreens they now sell the Tampax multi-packs in the lite-regular-super version AND the regular-super-super plus version now! Thank god…I feel so much more “normal” now! ;)

Congrats again!

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jen     at 11:24 pm

sorry about your struggle. i can only imagine cause i was the opposite of you. went off birth control and bam i was pregnant. now i live in fear with how easily i get knocked up to the point i fear sex lol. i only have 1, he is 5 and i love him to death but he is all i want. all i ever wanted was 1 though except for a brief time after i had him when hormones were telling me i wanted like 10 kids. good thing i didn’t listen to those hormones!

i hate buying tampons too. i still can’t buy them by themselves. i have to buy at least one other thing even if it isn’t needed.

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Stephanie     at 11:25 pm

It’s so interesting how many women share this same story, including me. It took me 8 months to get pregnant – 8 months of irregular, non-ovulatory cycles, 8 months of buying dozens of pregnancy tests, 8 months of tears and frustration. I gave up on the Provera after one try and finally decided I was done “trying”. I continued to take a pregnancy test every two weeks, since I really had no idea if/when my cycles would pick up again, and after two more months without a period, I finally got a positive test. My sweet girl will be two on April 2nd, and I know how lucky I am to have her :) Hopefully #2 (which we’ll be trying for later this year) will be a little easier!

I am so happy for you and Casey, and I can’t wait to read all about your awesome journey :)

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Lauren     at 11:31 pm

Yay, Emily I’m so glad everything worked out and it was so brave of you to write a post like this! It couldn’t have happened to a nicer person :) I started reading your blog because of the health/food aspect, but I am so so excited to hear all about the pregnancy.

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bitt     at 11:43 pm

Glad you are planning on staying veggie in the pregnancy. I have heard some pregnant women crave meat but I wonder if that depends on how long you’ve been meatless for.

You are making me feel better for buying a bunch of pregnancy tests even though I am not even trying, I just get super anxious if my period is a day late. It’s pretty regular. Interesting to know not everyone is. Glad you made it through the ordeal and hopefully your bundle of joy will arrive perfectly and all will have been worth it.

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bitt     at 11:43 pm

ps: blogger Lauren was vegan all through her pregnancy and if you need any tips I’m sure she’d love to answer them.
http://gingeristhenewpink.blogspot.com/

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sarah farley     at 12:02 am

I love this! I found your blog through Kath and even though I don’t know you(or Kath for that matter) when I read your posts I feel like I am sitting across the table having a conversation with a good friend. Reading this post made me so happy for you. I couldn’t stop smiling as I read this! Congrats and keep the posts coming. As someone who is looking forward to marriage and having kids, I love hearing about all of it:)

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shorty     at 12:03 am

SO excited for you!!! I am a mother of three boys and LOVE LOVE LOVE them:) Through thick and thin my life has been enhanced by my little guys, now bigger guys!lol I can’t wait to hear the rest of the story and watch you grow into the best mother this little baby could have!!!

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Amber K     at 12:03 am

I’m dealing with the missing periods right now. I haven’t had one in a reallllllllly long time and I have been to the doctor but every test she runs comes back normal. It’s quite frustrating!

I have never been on birth control, since my husband and I started trying as soon as we got married. I can’t believe we’ll have been married for five years this October and still no baby. It’s sad, and yet I’m sure something will happen if and when it’s supposed to.

Congrats again!! :)

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Tanya @ Vegan Faith Reply:

Amber, while we are not trying right now, I am in the same boat as you and it is quite frustrating. I try to always push it aside as in “when it is right it will happen” but it is still very scary.

Emily, I really appreciate your honesty and openness and I love reading the feedback here because it makes me feel like I’m not alone in this. Maybe we are all just normal after all!

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Amber K Reply:

Thank you so much for your response. It’s kinda sad that we all have our own problems, but it does feel a bit better knowing I’m not alone. :)

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Julie (A Case of the Runs)     at 12:07 am

Hi Emily, I’m pretty rushed right now so I don’t have time to read others’ comments, but I did read your post and am thinking that maybe the downtime you spent after your accident was helpful to your cycling and ultimate pregnancy. I am pretty sure marathon training kicks most people’s cycles to the curb, making things very difficult for them.

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Erica     at 12:08 am

This story really resonates with me. I went off of BCP in January 2010 and still haven’t gotten regular periods. I have only had 2 in the past 14 months. Next week I think I’m going to get a prescription for a drug that will induce ovulation, so that I can “TTC”.

Congratulations on finally conceiving and starting your family. I’m so happy for you and Casey!

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Elisabeth     at 12:39 am

So sad that you were that embarassed by it all, Emily! Thanks for sharing your story with all of your readers (especially thanks for being so honest about it & sharing everything!)Congratulations again are definitely in order :)

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Christin@purplebirdblog     at 12:39 am

I’ve been on the pill or the Depo shot for 14 years now, but I’m in no way, shape, or form having a kid right now, so I’m still sticking with it at the moment!

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Ashley     at 1:12 am

Beautiful story Emily!!! When you said you were waiting to tell the rest…I was like “nooo!!” haha I enjoyed every word of it and have had so many of the same thoughts you did before getting off BC. The reactions can vary so much! Definitely nerve racking…Can’t wait for the rest of the story!! My sis in law told me, by giving me the pee stick wrapped in tissue paper..hehe

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Lori     at 1:35 am

Oh Emily. I am also embarrassed to say I was seeing green to hear you were pregnant. I have been trying for 2 years with unexplained fertility. When you said at the end of your last post that “no matter what happened” you wanted to write about it, I just knew this was a long awaited pregnancy and you had trouble TTC. That was a gratefulness only another common voice could pick up on. I am so happy for you, even though I couldn’t comment yesterday because I let my selfishness get in the way. I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months of pure bliss!

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Irina     at 2:37 am

Congratulations – you will be a wonderful mom!!! So happy for you.
I totally hear you on the “female” privacy thing! I would only go to buy tampons by myself, and be embarrassed and switching lanes to make sure I get the female cashier at the check out! One time I was visiting with family friends who lived in Vienna, VA and had to buy tampons… I announced to them that I was going to “take a nice walk” and darted to the grocery store (quite a bit away in suburban Northern Virginia. I could not find tampons, was too embarrassed to ask but finally got to the “feminine products” isle only to see the father of the family with which I was staying… I was taking so long that he decided to drive around looking for me!!! I was mortified and grabbed the first package I could see, thinking that it was “pads” and it turned out to be a package of Depends!!! Poor man did not say a word… I am sure they had a nice chuckle that night with his wife.

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andi     at 3:19 am

I’m way behind on blogs (as in, haven’t looked at them in over a week), but I want to drop my own little note of CONGRATULATIONS to you and Casey. it sounds like you’ll both be wonderful parents, and I can’t wait to read about your journey. <3

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Juani     at 3:52 am

Such a great post,and really inspiring,because I’m also very worried about my baby-making future,as my cycles are really irregular.You just gave me some hope,thank you.

Can’t wait to read the rest of the story!

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Jumanah (Healthy Living in the Middle East)     at 5:01 am

I’ve been reading your blog for some time but never commented before. I just wanted to say congrats and thanks so much for sharing your story. It took me quite some time to get my period back after being on birth control for years, and months to get pregnant! I also feared having to face fertility issues, but after months and months of negative pregnancy tests, I finally got a positive! Three months later, I found out I was pregnant with twins!!! Now my girls are three and I am so lucky to have them! Congrats again to you and Casey!

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Jamie     at 6:07 am

This is fabulous news! And you have every right to “ride the high,” it sounds :)

My husband and I have yet to start trying for children, but your history gives me hope that I,too will be able to conceive at some point when we do. I’ve always had reproductive issues (I’ve never had a “normal” cycle), so I can understand what you’re talking about when you say there is a weight holding you down internally.

Best of luck to you, Casey, and the boys through this endeavor!

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Samantha     at 6:20 am

Just wanted to wish you and Casey many congratulations and best wishes!

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melissa daams     at 6:47 am

I, too took birth control and it messed my cycle up as well. it took my body quite a while to get normal again and i feared i wouldn’t be able to get pregnant. But three kids later, i’m happy as can be.

God Bless you both :)

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leatitia     at 6:54 am

Aw… Parents who are trying for so long make me teary. I’m happy for you.

My pregnancy was a, if it happens we’ll be happy, kind of planning so it’s not like we’d been actively trying for.. gosh 2 years like you guys.

so, sending over baby dust.. stick little baby!

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Lindsay     at 7:06 am

Congratulations Emily! Thanks for sharing your story. I have been using birth control for a long time, but am still a while away from planning on having children. It is so great that you can share your story with everyone. I am looking forward to hearing all about your journey over the coming months!

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Sarah (Running To Slow Things Down)     at 7:21 am

Congratulations, Emily! I love that you’re so open and willing to share this with your readers, as I think many girls will be able to relate. :D

Great post! :D

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Melissa     at 7:32 am

congratulations emily! this is so exciting, and a truly eloquently written post :)

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gabriella @ embracement     at 7:34 am

This post is so great, Emily! I’m only 22 and not looking for pregnancy anytime soon but since I was 16 I’ve never had a real period. Been on BC ever since. My doctor finally had me go off because I was so anxious and really wanted to check my hormones. After 2 months off I got a period and I pretty much wanted to tell everyone around me because I was so happy my body was finally working. My hormones turned out to be okay, but not ideal, which could have still been an affect of the BC. Even though I’m only 22 my friends and I always talk about our dreams of children and like you said I sometimes feel really ashamed about the way my body works and doesn’t work and whether this dream will come true for me. But I have faith it will all work out in good time like it did for you and Casey.

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Tricia     at 7:34 am

Just wanted to say congrats on the baby!!! I’m glad it worked out for you and you didn’t have to do any fertility treatments!!! I’m seriously looking forward to hearing about the foods you make for your little one! Its about time one of you food bloggers had a baby!! ;) B/c those of us with kids reading your blogs are sometimes counted out on the recipes cuz our kids wont eat some of that stuff! Sad i know! So i look forward to seeing what you come up with! Congrats again!

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Laura     at 7:40 am

Emily, Do you think your running and training had anything to do with this? I am just curious because I have the exact same story (only we haven’t gotten pregnant yet) and my periods came back as soon as I cut down on mileage and gained a little weight. I was and still am in the healthy range. Maybe when you got sidelined from the car accident this helped kick your body in gear? Just wondering what you think as we are trying to figure it out ourselves.

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Tanya @ Vegan Faith     at 7:47 am

What a beautiful blessing! I am so excited to hear this story unfold and see how God will richly bless your lives!

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C     at 7:49 am

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m ashamed to admit it, but I got a bit upset when I read your pregnancy announcement. My husband and I are 10 months into trying to conceive with no luck. It often feels like everyone under the sun can get pregnant with no issues…except me. Your story gives me hope, and it was also a humbling reminder that I should never assume to know what struggles a person does or does not face.

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Erin L. @ WholesomeRD Reply:

That was my thought too C – you never know what struggles people are going through. We had NO idea that Emily was going through this huge life changing struggle.

Maybe we all need to show more compassion to one another because you don’t know what people are going through in their lives. Maybe the “slow” person driving in front of you just found out they have cancer or something.

As with everything – there is a “bigger” lesson to learn from Emily’s story! :)

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KRISTY     at 8:10 am

I <3 YOU AND THAT LITTLE RASPBERRY SHAPED BISCUIT YOU HAVE BAKING IN YOUR OVEN – I CANT WAIT TO HEAR MORE!!!

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Sparkles365     at 8:20 am

I would love to phase off of BC to have my own hormones doing the work. I have been on it for 8 years. I’m curious as to how you phased off gradually. I am so excited that you are going to blog about your experiences with the pregnancy!

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shelby     at 8:36 am

Congrats! I enjoy reading your blog and your beautifully written story! Look forward to hearing more!

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Ann     at 8:39 am

First of all- huge congratulations! And thank you for sharing your story. My road to babyhood has been a little rough, too, with a late term loss a year ago and challenges ever since. I can totally relate to the tears and frustration and feelings of inadequacy. When I finally get that positive, I’ll want to share it with the world!

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Becky     at 8:45 am

Oh, Emily, I love your honesty SO much. My story is very similar, with the same happy ending. My girl is now 2.5 and I couldn’t love my family more. Can’t wait to continue reading your journey! :)

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Liz     at 8:48 am

This was like reading my diary…..as I’ve been going through the exact same process! I have been off the pill for almost a year now and have only in the past few months started having periods, though they are still far apart. This post gave me lots of hope that my body will continue to get back on the right track, and I will be able to get pregnant (going to start trying later this year). Like you, I haven’t even shared all my fears with my husband, feeling like that would make it more real (and serious?). Congratulations, and thank you so much for sharing!

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Liz Reply:

P.S. I’m really looking forward to posts about maintaining fitness and eating a healthy vegetarian diet while pregnant!

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Sharon Owen     at 8:48 am

My first husband and I also were scared about me not being able to conceive (he has a child from another relationship). We had done the temp/chart thing and homeopathic things and on the Friday before the Monday I was to go to the DR to talk about the next step in fertility stuff, I woke up with a BAD sore throat. So, went to the ‘other’ DR and standard question (“are you pregnant?”) and I answered IDK (cuz I never was regular) earned me a blood test.

That’s when I found out I was pregnant with my Son (now 15!) AND I had Strep Throat!

Something about that pregnance must have ‘jump started’ my body, because I have been preganant 3 more times since! I have 2 girls for my son to torture! I did lose one :( but with what was going on at the time it was TRULY a blessing in disguise from God.

ENJOY this time!! It’s AWESOME!

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Sharon Owen Reply:

so sorry about typos— need more coffee!

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Maura     at 8:54 am

This is so exciting! Thank you so much for sharing with us. I truly feel honored to read your story and I cannot wait to read more!

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Ashley     at 8:54 am

Thank you so much for sharing this story. My fiance would love for me to go on the pill or some sort of hormonal birth control but I just feel uncomfortable. They claim all the artificial hormones aren’t negative etc but how can they not be? The things you were experiencing are exactly what makes me so nervous.

I am SO happy for you and Casey. This is amazing news and I can’t wait to read all about your pregnancy and baby-related things. :)

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carly     at 9:03 am

i just want to echo what many others have said, and say thank you for sharing your story. i am getting married soon and have an incredibly irregular period (usually about 60 days apart, like you once were) and i feel discouraged, worrying about future infertility issues. your story is an inspiration for me. also, congratulations!!

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Nellie     at 9:04 am

Your story is so amazing and I am so happy you shared it and look forward to hear more!

I am only 26, and my husband and I are not ready for a baby yet HOWEVER, I am in the process (next month officially!)of getting off birth control after two years on it to get my body back to “normal”. I was told I could never have babies a few years back, but after 5 years of no period it returned so I know they are wrong, and it will happen for me someday!

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Bethany     at 9:21 am

Congratulations! It’s awesome that you are sharing your story and I can’t wait to hear more. I am having my first baby in July and I look forward to your recipes and workouts tailored to us preggos! Hope your pregnancy is happy and healthy!

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Katy     at 9:24 am

I had to step away from my desk after reading this…because it gave me chills.

My journey has been very similar to yours (and based on recent posts from other bloggers, this is a common issue!). I now have a regular period, which I’ve been getting for about 8 months…but there’s no rhyme or reason for why it went away or what made it come back.

I’m turning 31 next week, and for now am NOT trying to have kids. Ideally, I’d be able to wait a few more years. But given my body issues, I’m terrified about waiting too long.

Thanks for your honesty…oh, and I also used super super super extra big and obvious tampons, and also used to hide the boxes from my friends.

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Kayla     at 9:38 am

Congratulations, Emily and Casey! I loved this post. I just talked to my new OBGYN about babies and birth control, and I’m a little nervous. I’ve been on the pill for almost eight straight years and have a super regular cycle as a result…but I want to stop so we can have babies after we’re married in June. I’m nervous and scared, but I feel better knowing that others out there shared the same experiences. And don’t feel bad about your tampons… I used the same ones since I got my period at age 9. Fun times!

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brandi     at 9:39 am

It’s so nice to just KNOW that other people are going through similar things. I went off BC in November of 2009 and we officially stopped using anything in August 2010. I’ve been thinking something is wrong (even though I’m having regular cycles), but I had a huge cyst on my right ovary that I just had removed in December and that (plus the endometriosis I had) can make it harder for women to conceive.

I think everything happens at the right time :)

So excited for you two!

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R @ Learning As I Chop     at 9:46 am

Congratulations!! And thank you for sharing your story. BC, and its effects, are definitely not talked about enough

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Alayna @ Thyme Bombe     at 9:46 am

Thank you so much for giving us the details! I seriously never knew that birth control could affect fertility until I started reading healthy living blogs. It angers me how badly our education system, and even worse our doctors, are failing to provide us with the information we need to be in control of our bodies and our fertility. I’m sorry you had to feel so alone for so long, but I’m also so glad that you and Casey have finally gotten the reward for all your “hard work!” ;)

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Becky     at 9:52 am

I’m so excited for you ! I didn’t comment yesterday because I could see how many comments you were receiving & thought you might be overwhelmed, but I think you sharing this is so helpful to others who might be in the same position. You’ll be a wonderful Mom.

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Kristi     at 9:53 am

EMILY I AM SOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU AND CASEY! Congrats! I’ve been reading for quite some time but I belive this is my first post! oops!

Anyways, glad to see that you are writing for spark! I track all of my nutrition and cardio there and blog, of course!!! Loved seeing you on there!

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Jillian @ Reshape Your Life     at 9:55 am

I can’t express it enough how happy I am for both of you (and the pups too). I can’t wait for all of the baby talk! I’m really glad you shared your story about TRYING to conceive… It’s something that has bothered me for years about hormonal birth control. I was on the pill from the time I was 17 until about a year ago (23) mostly to regulate my period and lessen debilitating cramps… So I was TERRIFIED to be without hormonal birth control but scared about the effects on my body! After I get married next year I think we might think about getting my IUD out and see how I feel and maybe “not try to not conceive” and see what happens.

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Jessica     at 9:59 am

Emily, I’m so impressed by your honesty and candor. It’s obvious that your post has struck a cord with many people and I deeply respect you for having the courage to put this all out there for others to read. This is something that truly isn’t talked about and is such a source of shame for women (it shouldn’t be!!). I hope you’ve helped them realize that it’s not them and there still is hope. Congratulations again!!

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Kelly     at 10:14 am

I commend you for sharing your story so early on. There are so many women who read you on a daily basis and just knowing they have your trust and honesty is an amazing connection. Plus, we all have our stories, and that’s really what this whole blogging this is about, isn’t it? Connecting and sharing. Best of luck to you and Casey and your little raspberry. You are going to make a gorgeous mom!

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Cait     at 10:17 am

Emily, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am currently studying to be an ob/gyn (I’m halfway through medical school) so I’m very interested to hear people’s experiences with birth control and conception.

My 2c on the birth control conversation (remember I’m not a doctor yet)-

Many women who discontinue OCP use in their late twenties/early thirties are frustrated by difficulty in conceiving. One thing to consider is that it is more difficult for a 30-year-old woman to conceive than it is for a 20-year-old woman, whether or not OCPs were taken during the intervening years. Many women use birth control during their most fertile years, and should expect it to take a little longer when they try to get pregnant “later” in life. Additionally, OCPs artificially regulate the menstrual cycle, so underlying issues with a woman’s cycle may not be apparent until she goes off the pill. I think it is wonderful that we have so many birth control options now that allow women to delay pregnancy while they take time to complete their education, begin their careers or do whatever it is they want to do in their twenties, but we should expect some challenges when it’s finally time for babies.

I’m so excited to read about the course your healthy vegetarian pregnancy, especially since you always tell it like it is!

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Suzanne @ continuing my education     at 10:23 am

So happy and excited for you and Casey!!

Looking forward to the next 8 months!

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Rachel     at 10:24 am

I really and truly appreciate your honesty. As someone who is currently struggling with infertility, this helps me to know that I am not alone. Honestly though, my first thought was “why is is so easy for everyone else?” It didn’t even cross my mind that it might have been a struggle for you. I am so happy that it worked out for you. I feel like infertility is this unspoken issue. I am not sure why people don’t talk about it much (myself included) but it always helps to read others stories. Long story short, I went off BC about 16 months ago and have yet to ovulate on my own. I am currently using some aggressive fertility drugs, and it isn’t fun. You are so blessed to have conceived naturally! Here’s to a happy and healthy 9 months!

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Jocelyn @ Enthusiastic Runner     at 10:25 am

I love how you are sharing your personal story!! I am so excited to hear more!! You are such a great writer…and you left us on such a cliffhanger for the next post!!!

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Lindsey @ Morningstar Project     at 10:28 am

Congrats on the baby news!! Such an exciting time in your life. Thank you so much for sharing your story about the not-so-easy road to pregnancy. After getting off birth control I didn’t get my period for 8 months and had to use other medications to bring it on. My ovulation cycle is irregular, actually I’m diagnosed with PCOS which means my hormones are not at normal levels (I wrote a post about it here http://wp.me/p1lHyZ-cx). I hear you on the feelings of embarrassment. The long road to baby-making might be a bumpy one for me, so it’s nice to see I’m not the only one who’s female body doesn’t always work perfectly.

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Amykinz @ Foodie4Healing Reply:

Lindsey,
I’m a fellow PCOS’er (as well as endometriosis) & I have a beautiful 4 year daughter & am currently 21 weeks pregnant. I’m posting a link to my story for you. I hope it give you some hope! http://foodie4healing.blogspot.com/2010/11/my-miracle.html

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Chicago Cuisine Critique     at 10:29 am

Thanks for sharing! My best friend is going through a very similar situation with trying to get pregnant. We are hoping that it happens soon! Reading this is very encouraging. I am excited to pass along your story and good news. :)

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Amanda @ Cakes and Ale     at 10:39 am

Thank you so much for writing this, Emily.
I’m in the same boat. I went off BCP in September ’10 after almost 10 years on. I’m currently 28. It’s now been almost 6 months and no period. I did actually take Provera, but it didn’t work for me, so now I’m just waiting it out. It’s insanely frustrating and emotionally difficult, especially since there’s really no concrete action you can take to make things “work” again.
Your story gives me hope, however, that someday soon my period will return and I’ll be able to have a family too… It’s good to know that there are others out there – many, it seems – who experience the same difficulties.
Thanks again…

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Amykinz @ Foodie4Healing     at 10:40 am

Awww…what a sweet Mommy you have! :)

And yes, the birth control pill is the devil. I just wish Dr’s would tell girls the FULL story about them before prescribing them outright. There are so many risks: messing w/your system (as you experienced), increasing your chances of breast cancer, it’s even been known to cause abortions when all the “normal” functions of it fail & there IS a fertilized egg. I’m not knocking people who use them, I’m just say DO YOUR RESEARCH & BE INFORMED! (Disclaimer: I, too, was on birth control for years).

I have told you this before & I’ll say it again… I LOVE YOU because you are a total over-sharer!!! Don’t ever change!

My favorite quote from your post today: “For some reason I found myself completely embarrassed about what I was going through. Here I was, claiming to be a role model for health and nutrition, and yet I felt like the basic function of my female body was not working. I looked healthy on the outside, but felt broken and ashamed on the inside.”

Society does a good job of making us women with “womanly issues” feel embarrassed, ashamed, like we don’t work properly, etc. and it inferiorates me! Ladies, TALK ABOUT IT! PLEASE! If it was your daughter going thru something like that, would want her to face it alone? I know I wouldn’t.

Thank you Emily! For openly sharing & talking about your story!

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Tricia @ Saving room for dessert     at 10:42 am

You and my daughter have the same feelings about buying feminine hygiene products :) I never minded helping her – just as your Mom helped you. I never mailed them but still buy them occasionally for her. But she just moved out last week – so my baby is gone. Your baby years are just about to start! I think I’m going to cry. We are very happy for you.

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Stephanie     at 10:51 am

Whoa! I miss one day of the blog-stream, and I miss EVERYTHING! CONGRATULATIONS!! That’s so exciting!

Oh right, and this blog – I totally get the OMG embarrassment…I was the first out of all of my friends to get my period. Oye. I finally got over it when I got into college (you know, 6 years is a nice buffer!). =)

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Allison K     at 10:52 am

I’m delurking to say Congrats!!

Also, I apologize if this has been mentioned in the comments already, (I only had time to read half of them)….but I totally reccomend the book “Taking Charg of Your Fertility” to anyone who is considering going off the pill. Even if you chose NOT to chart temps etc, it’s So so so so informative and eye opening about what our bodies do.

I was on the pill for 6 years straight, and went off of it in October of 2010. Prior to the pill I had pretty regular 29ish day cycles and now they are more like 35. I’m not sure if that is a result of the pill or not, but it’s truly amazing to learn about what your body is doing. Well worth it.

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Kate     at 11:00 am

Maybe it’s possible that after going off the pill you also experienced exercised induced amenorrhea? You were marathon training and after you got injured and stepped back from running (October 2010, if I’m right), it seems like your cycle started to recover? Meghann posted this a while ago, if you haven’t seen it: http://mealsandmiles.com/2010/10/20/my-period-post/

Seems like a similar case?

Also, it’s not possible for your body to be a failure, female or otherwise. You are not defined or valued by your fertility.

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Allison @ Runs A Latte     at 11:03 am

What a great story! I’m so glad everything worked out for the best! I’m getting married this Sept. and nervous about the whole BC thing, too! I definitely don’t want to have to go through that constant worry and anxiety. But it’s all worth it now cuz you’ll be a mommy!! I’m so excited for you!!

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Miava     at 11:10 am

My babies were charted and planned too! :) I so badly wanted to be a mommy. After a miscarriage I found out that I have endometriosis. And I was told I may never have children… So I put up a big fight against my own biological nature and won. I have two girls!!!

Oddly, being on the pill for as long as I was (from 16 to 30) is what was saved me. The endo was kept under some control without my knowing it. Weird right? Human bodies are as odd as they are unique.

And I will never get tired of hearing about babies!! (or dogs ;)

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Lina     at 11:11 am

Congrats!!! I am so happy for you and your growing family! Thank you for sharing your behind the scenes story. I had a simlar story before my daughter and it’s nice to know that I am not alone. I am looking forward to the pregnancy/baby posts to come :)

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Kimberly @ Healthy Strides     at 11:29 am

I admire you for telling your story. I know first-hand what that fear feels like, the fear of not getting pregnant, and I was barely able to admit it to myself.But the stars aligned and BAM! I’m 22 weeks pregnant.

And, if it helps, I felt much better after week 13 and have been lucky to be able to run the entire time. I look forward to seeing your journey!

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Gwen     at 11:33 am

I am SO excited to follow your baby journey!

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Judy     at 11:34 am

Wow, congratulations and enjoy the journey! It is exciting and tiring. I’m so sorry that you felt so guilty and responsible for what was going on with your period – it was out of your control! Take care of yourself and it will be fun to watch your journey. xoxoxo

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Shannon @ My Place In The Race     at 11:48 am

Such an awesome post Emily! Thanks for sharing :)

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Amanda @ The Beauty Notebooks     at 11:52 am

Congratulations on your incredible news! This post made me smile very wide. I am so happy for you! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey–and also how you told Casey!

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Erin @ Vie Balance     at 11:54 am

Hi Emily,

First of all congratulations!! Babies are wonderful!! I just had my first this past October which in my opinion is a great time to have a baby because the weather is usually still nice enough so you can get out of the house and your little bundle will be here in time for the holidays.

I too was nervous about being able to conceive after going off BC but luckily we didn’t see to have a problem. However, after this baby I am not going back on the pill because I figure it is just not worth messing with your fertility.

I started my blog Vie Balance during my second trimester, so there may be some things you may find helpful or at least entertaining :)

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Sarah     at 11:55 am

I almost never comment, but I am SO incredibly happy for you. I’ve been having my fair share of cycle issues as well; really unpredictable and going completely without one for 8 months or so. If you haven’t tried it already, I recommend Acupuncture wholeheartedly. It has really helped me.
CONGRATULATIONS :)

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Rachel (Olalliberry)     at 12:08 pm

After reading your post (and many of the above comments) it makes me almost mad how little most people know and understand about their bodies and how hormones affect them. I wish sex ed programs were better funded and more informative instead of just scare tactics.

I highly recommend the book “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”, even for those wishing to avoid pregnancy it is incredibly interesting. I learned so much I wish I had known when I was younger! It details a method to chart your ovulation so you can either promote or avoid pregnancy. Great great stuff.

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Jo @ Jo In the Kitchen     at 12:11 pm

I don’t mind the baby posts at all! In fact, keep them coming :)
It’s hard not to be curious, so I’ll gladly read whatever you feel comfortable posting.

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Katie @ Healthy Heddleston     at 12:12 pm

Thank you for sharing Emily! I’m so interested in stories like these and I’m just so so happy for you! Can’t wait for more of the story!

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Natalia - a side of simple     at 12:19 pm

Good for you, Emily, for really opening up and sharing this. For my own personal reasons, I really, truly appreciate it. Again, a huge congratulations to you and Casey. You are certainly in my prayers!

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Amy     at 1:08 pm

Emily – I’ve been a reader for a little while now, but I think this might be my first comment :) Congratulations to you & Casey! You will be wonderful parents and I am so happy for you! So excited to “be with you” for the rest of the journey!

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Rachel     at 1:18 pm

Heh – my mom went off the pill, thinking (as you’d been told) that it would take 6 months to a year to become pregnant. She became pregnant (with me) that week. Bodies are so crazy! I’m glad it all worked out for you, though.

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kelli     at 1:37 pm

WOW this is amazing!! When I was in high school I developed an eating disorder (had my period at 13). Then since I was so underweight, I was not getting my period, Then senior year when I was at a healthy weight…and into my first/second year of college I still did not get my period (I am not sexually active). So I finally told my doctor this after hiding it and she sent my to a gyno and I was put on birth control to start my period, So now I have been on LoSeasonique and get it 4 times a year…But It is so hard reading people experiences and not being good ones. Love hearing peoples experiences with BC. I have been on it like 2 1/2 years now.

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Leanne     at 1:51 pm

Congrats to you and Casey again :) so happy for the two of you!

I wish you a safe and healthy pregnancy!

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Katie     at 1:56 pm

Congratulations! I was so excited about having my first baby ( my boys are 5 and 3 1/2 now). But when I look back I realize have very very special the pregnancy was. That time is like no other. The time for yourself to really transition. I’m so happy for you & can’t wait to see what comes. Enjoy your special time.

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Tina @ Faith Fitness Fun     at 2:04 pm

I love that you are sharing this with your readers. I agree that we need to learn about our own fertility and be off pills if possible. Also, tracking ovulation and cycles is a useful tool not to be ashamed of. I’m glad it worked for you when you took to it! So excited to follow your journey. :)

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Amy     at 2:23 pm

Emily,

First of all, Congratulations! I’m struggling with similar issues right now, so it’s great to read a success story.

Do you think your reduction in running due to your car accident may have contributed to your period returning? I am a runner and have done some reading that suggests running can cause issues with ovulation. Just curious about your thoughts.

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Richelle     at 2:36 pm

I went off the pill in August and still have not gotten my period. I am not trying to get pregnant but I know I need to see a doctor about it soon. Thanks for sharing!

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Erika MC     at 3:03 pm

Congratulations! I had a journey of my own getting pregnant. The lack of periods, lack of concieving, etc. We ended up getting pregnant after two IUIs. I’m now 16 weeks along and it’s wonderful! Thanks for sharing your story and as a fellow prego I’m excitied to hear all about it along the way!

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Stacey     at 3:08 pm

Congratulations! I cant say I had the same struggles with birth control pills, but I have never liked them. From the time I started taking them, they have always messed up my body, from nausea to sore breasts to hives. Finally in 2007 after 8 years of off and on use, i vowed to never take any hormonal birth control again and I have been so happy with that decision. I feel so much more like ME.

Good luck on your pregnancy. I too am pregnant, due 10/27/2011. And I am looking forward to following you on your journey through your pregnancy on this blog as I go through mine!

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Carolyn @ Lovin' Losing     at 3:42 pm

Thank you for sharing your story! That’s so brave.
I went off birth control in the fall and am using the Lady Comp to track fertility. We’re not going to try for another couple of months to get finances in order. The past two months I got my period on the 25th day of my cycle so when day 27 of this month came I was kind’ve hoping we’d accidentally gotten pregnant. The test came back “No” and I got my period the next day. Talk about jumping the gun. ;) Ha! SO ready for May to be here so we can get the ball rolling.

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Brandy     at 4:14 pm

I did not have a chance to say congrats to your previous post, so now I say, congratulations! I can’t imagine the emotion you must have felt as you hit “publish” on that post. I am so happy to hear your baby news and look forward to seeing you blog about your journey! I suppose I can’t speak for everyone, but knowing how you go through your pregnancy while considering the health of you and your baby paramount sounds like good blog content to me. :)

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Ashley     at 4:32 pm

Congrats! I know this is not relevant now but I just wanted to encourage you and every woman to chart their cycles. It can reveal so much and it really teaches you so much about your body. It really should be taught to us as we get our periods. Taking Charge of your Fertility is a great book and can teach you how to chart and then how to avoid or become pregnant . That way you eliminate risky bc and can family plan as naturally as possible! Hope you have a wonderul pregnancy!

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Carol     at 4:40 pm

I agree with some of the other posts…our bodies are crazy. I am going through something similar and found it very comforting to read about your experience. I wish you all the best through the next few months:)

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Syndie     at 4:45 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I was on BC for 15 years. I have been off for 4 months now and trying to get pregnant for 2. I have been taking ovulation tests every month. I am going to download the phone app. Hopefully soon!! You are so lucky :)

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Beth     at 4:54 pm

Emily, this post is so meaningful to me. Not only because I am so happy for you and Casey, but because I know EXACTLY what you went through with the birth control issue. Unfortunately I am going through the exact same problem currently, but I dont have a clear end in site yet. Your post has given me hope that I am still going to be ok, and that I need a little more time and patience. Thank you so much for sharing this incredibly amazing and personal history.

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Kerri     at 5:38 pm

Hey – I think your comment about Biggest Loser made it into the Runner’s World Running Commentary!

And delurking to say CONGRATULATIONS!

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Kathleen     at 5:45 pm

CONGRATULATIONS!

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Tiffany     at 6:02 pm

First, congratulations on expecting! I know it’s still early so I am sending lots of good thoughts that things will go smoothly.

I can so relate to your story. I went off BC about 3 months after I got married just to see that everything was “ok.” I did get my period right away, but then it started to be very irregular. About 6 months after going off BC, I did not get my period for 3 months. I got lots of blood tests and even an ultrasound for them to determine what was wrong. I was diagnosed with PCOS based on my hormone levels and was pretty worried when the doctor told me I’d need to take medicine to conceive when we were finally ready.

Today, I am 17 weeks pregnant and did not need any drugs to get me there. About a year and a half after going off BC, my cycle became more regular and while it took a few months, we got pregnant naturally. I really believe that I was misdiagnosed and it was just my body getting used to being off the hormones.

Whether the BC really affected my cycle or not, I do believe that it masks any underlying issues women have and, in some cases, until it’s too late. Many of us wait to have children and when we’re ready and go off BC, it’s frustrating to realize it can’t happen right away. I wish I had known more about how it would affect things so I could be more prepared.

Thanks for sharing your story!

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Kiran     at 6:07 pm

So happy for you both. And thanks for sharing your journey. Albeit a difficult one, with a wonderful beginning :)

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christina cadden     at 6:24 pm

I am so excited for you guys! Love your story thanks for sharing it!

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Alex     at 6:26 pm

Hi Emily,
First of all, congratulation on your pregnancy! I can’t wait to follow it on your blog.
I’ve been reading your blog for the last couple of months but this is my very first time commenting.
All the comments about birth control, and struggles with infertility drew me into commenting today. I started taking the pill when I was 17, this was purely for birth control. I didn’t question it for the first few years but in my early twenties I started feeling uncomfortable with the fact that I was taking hormones daily. So one day I decided to come off the pill. I thought I’d just use condom and that that would be that. Unfortunately before I even had my first “real period” I was pregnant (condoms are definitely not 100% reliable). I was 24 at the time and while the guy was a really sweet person our story had no future so I ended up doing what was the most sensible thing to do then. I don’t regret my decision but I really wish I hadn’t put myself in such a situation.
I went back on the pill straight after that, not that I changed my mind about the hormones but I didn’t trust condoms anymore and couldn’t see any other way to avoid getting pregnant again.
Ever since this happened I can’t help but feel that somewhere along the line I will have to pay for what I did and maybe infertility will be my sentence.
I am now married to a wonderful guy. Nearly 2 years ago (before we got married) I shared with him my concerns about the pill and, with his full support, I came off of it.
We are not trying for a baby. In fact our current situation is not ideal for starting a family (we are in the UK waiting for our immigration papers to arrive so that we can move and settle in Canada). Even though we know that an “accident” could happen I know my husband is not fully comfortable with the idea of a baby yet and I would rather this to be something that we both want.
I, however feel quite ready. In fact I have felt ready for quite a while but sadly it never seems to be the right time so I just tell myself that there are million other things I want to do before I have babies. And yes, most of my friends have kids now, some are even having their second babies each pregnancy announcement makes me feel totally left behind.
That’s why it’s so comforting to hear other people’s stories. Thank you for sharing yours and for creating a space where other people can share their experience :)

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rrv     at 6:33 pm

Wow, that is a crazy journey for sure! I can identify…I lost my period for 3 years (and never told anyone because I didn’t want to talk about it) and then spent months on different pills trying to get my cycle back. When it finally came, it was so exciting! I ran out of pills after a year of being on them, and within a few months, it was again so exciting to have a period come back on its own!

I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy. This is a special baby, for sure, considering the road it took to get you here! Congrats!

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Katie     at 8:20 pm

Thank you for posting that, My Husband and I have been TTC for 2 years with no success. I was also not able to get a period on my own. We just finished our first round of injectible hormones and are hoping that in a few weeks we will be able to feel that same joy. I am so very happy for you guys!!

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Heidi - Apples Under My Bed     at 8:48 pm

Thanks for sharing! You’re so honest in your struggles and happiness :) I have been with my man for 9.5 years (getting married next Feb, I’m 25). I’ve been on the pill for nearly 9 years, so I’m sure this will all be relevant when we start trying for kids in 3-4 years!
Heidi xo

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Pearl (Crunch and Chew)     at 6:35 am

I haven’t had the chance to congratulate you; I’m so excited for you and Casey – best of luck!

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www.theevolvinghomemaker.com     at 5:05 pm

YEAH! Congrats!

:)
Jen

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Lisa     at 7:23 pm

Congratulations on your big news! I’ve never been consistent with the Pill. I take it in relationships (it took forever to find one that worked without making me crazy or acne-prone) but whenever relationships ended I preferred to be au-natural.

I’ve been with my boyfriend now for 3 years. We live together. We plan on getting married. Someday we want kids. I have no idea WHEN. I just hope I don’t have fertility issues because of the Pill.

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marsha     at 5:42 pm

First of all – congratulations!!! And thank you for your honesty in this post! I’m getting married next spring and at that point I’ll have been on bc for at least a dozen years. I talked about your story with my fiance who knows what we may face down the road when it becomes time to ttc. I wish you guys the best and can’t wait to hear about your journey!

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Kelli H     at 5:34 pm

Congratulations to you and your husband! Thank you for sharing your story. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be 10 years of being on BC to experience irregular periods. I was on it for about 2 years and when I got off I had irregular cycles for about 6 months. It can be really scary!

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Amy @ThenThereWere     at 4:53 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have PCOS and a ~56 days cycle. Managed to get pregnant slightly accidentally at the beginning of December but miscarried. Positive stories help, it’s more learning and hope.

Amy x

ps think you can’t see me because my twitter has to be protected due to work, ttc blah blah I am here is you’d like to follow :o) http://www.twitter.com/ThenThereWere

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marcy     at 12:15 pm

I’m so glad I found your blog and just read this post… I am going through alot of the same things.. i stopped taking BC in Aug and my periods are hit or miss.. I keep spending the $$ on test and they are always negative. I finally got the courage to go to the doctor last week and had blood taken to determine if I am even ovulating. I haven’t gotten the results back yet but hopefully today or tomorrow. Your story made me feel so much better that other people react the same was as me… Congrats!

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Namaste Gurl     at 5:05 pm

This pregnancy journey testimony of yours makes my heart happy and flourish. Well written and documented, Emily! So genuine and heart- felt, and I can totally sense it. Can’t wait to read further about your continuing pregnancy journey…

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I was always embarrassed about female stuff too and my family never talked about it, so for the longest time I just swept it under a rug and accepted it. Now that I want to have children, I have had to learn to speak up about things and to take action. It’s been quite an adjustment for me! So glad your road to baby happened the way it did :)

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Sarah     at 11:36 pm

Wow, thanks for sharing your story Emily! I’m really glad I decided not to get on BC. My body just hates taking any kinds of meds anyway- it pretty much rejects everything and I get every singe side effect. I don’t think Doctors do a very good job of informing women of other options.

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Sarah     at 3:54 pm

I am so glad that I found your amazing blog. My story is very similar and I’m hoping for a similar ending..
I came off BC in November 2010, had a period for 2 days in December 2010 then nothing.. months of nothing. I had all the signs except breast tenderness. After a week of excruciating cramps and no menses, I took a test.. negative BUT the next week, breast tenderness then my period. What a relief.
This is where your blog has put my mind at ease – I’m over a week late (if I had a 28 day cycle). Knowing that you had a 60 day then a 40 really helps. None of my friends have gone through this so it’s been difficult to explain. I was worried that my BF % was too low (17) or that my vegetarian diet was harming me.
Thank you for sharing!

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Amateur Mommy     at 11:59 am

Your story is SO MUCH like mine! I was on depo for 10 years or so and it took over a year to get out of my system. I really thought we were going to be childless. Alas, I was wrong, and we have a beautiful little girl, 17 months old! Now I’m as regular as can be and never planning on going on BC again due to my difficult experience getting off of it.

Cullen is a handsome little fella, BTW :)

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