Gosh, I am so behind I don’t even know how to dig out. Even though I just posted Graham’s 2-3 week update, I’m going to go ahead and share his one month update now because time just keeps on ticking. My goal is to post every day this week and *finally* feel sort of back on track.
Are you laughing too? This is extra ambitious because we’re also planning to finally finish Breaking Bad this week. What am I supposed to do with myself when it’s all over? Anyway…
Last week, Graham hit his (four week and) one month milestone! So hard to believe that his wild entry into the world was already that long ago. He is a lucky little fella that so many of his loved ones want to meet him so quickly. The day that he turned four weeks old, my little sister Sarah arrived with her boyfriend all the way from Indianapolis!
We spent a long weekend hitting up all our favorite Seattle spots, and continuing to show Graham all around the town. I probably alluded to it a bit in my last update, but the first few weeks were kind of rough. Not rough in the sense that Graham cried or fussed a lot, but more just that I completely forgot what newborn babies are like.
I am so used to toddler-mode now that the baby days feel very long behind me. It’s taken a few weeks of adjusting for me to get my bounce and shush back, and for me to remember that itty bitty guys have no schedule, agenda, or predictability about them. Of course that’s not always easy to manage along with a toddler – who needs some sort of consistency and predictability – but we’re getting there. Graham has been very patient with me. He is quite possibly the world’s sweetest baby.
He is much more awake now that he’s coming out of his sleepy newborn days. He has a few long stretches of alertness throughout the day, and I’m digging back through my blog archives and baby books to remember how to interact with and entertain a tiny baby! We pulled out his play mat this week, and he’ll tolerate it for about ten minutes at a time.
His eyes are a lot more focused now, and I can see him recognizing my face and tracking objects, so I think he’ll start enjoying mobiles, shaker toys, and more things like this. It’s fun to pull all the baby toys back out, although Cullen keeps trying to steal them all. I have perfected my bug-eyed wide-mouthed goofy mom smile, and he loves it.
Sleeping is…okay. I never had any grand delusions that we’d be doing much better than we are, so I guess that’s good. This big boy really likes to eat, so he doesn’t sleep for many long stretches at a time. To date, our longest is 4.5 hours – but that usually starts around 8pm (when I’m deep into BB on Netflix of course), so that’s not doing me much good. I’m usually up somewhere between 1-2am, and then again around 4am. After that is when things get tricky.
Beyond the second (or third or fourth) wakeup, he doesn’t fall back asleep easily, and pretty much insists on sleeping on my chest if I want to sleep any later. At this point he also likes to eat about every 45 minutes or so. So the last hour or two of sleep is spent cuddled on a half-sleeping mommy. It’s so fast and so fleeting, and I’m tired. I can’t help myself.
He naps during the day either in the car, in the Ergo, on the Boppy lounger, or on my chest. I’m struggling to find any time with my hands free to do things like work (!), clean, cook, etc. – because he’s still just so tiny and really wants to snuggle. I know this won’t last too much longer, so I’m cutting myself a break. Luckily, he does usually tend to take one long-ish nap during the time when Cullen naps too, so occasionally this frees me up for an hour or two (like right now!).
We had a checkup right after the one month mark, and he weighed in at a whopping 11 pounds, 5 ounces. He is a beast. I am not surprised though with how much and how often he eats. Speaking of eating, breastfeeding is going well again this second time around, although it is quite different.
Where the first time feedings were long and slow, it seems my body got enough practice before that it skipped the warm-up phase this time. My let-down is insane, and the flow is crazy fast. This guy empties a boob in like four minutes flat, and feedings are over so quickly. It’s nice to not be tied in the chair for hours on end like I was with Cullen!
Now that he’s awake and alert much more, his personality is starting to shine through. While it’s natural and tempting to compare him to Cullen – since that is our only real frame of reference – we are really just enjoying watching him become his own little person. I’m excited to see what they have in common, how they get along, etc. – but mostly I’m just excited to find out what Graham is all about. So far, he has completely stolen my heart. I had forgotten a lot about this early baby stage – mostly how much I absolutely love it.
He woke up the morning of the 11th – exactly one month old – and broke out into huge smiles. Sure, they are crazy old man newborn smiles, but they are still heart melting.
I cannot stop kissing and snuggling this child.
The day he hit one month was also my first day kicking off a week alone with two kiddos. Casey traveled to Miami last week for a work conference, so I was on my own back here with a four week old and a two year old. It was tiring and lonely and long, but it also went much better than I anticipated (and is the main reason for the radio silence here last week!). I’m planning to do another “day in the life” post sooner than later, to show how different things are now with two!
I think we’ve finally hit our stride. I’m exhausted and still really overwhelmed, but life is also just really, really good right now.
One Month Quick Notes:
- Weight: 11lbs, 5oz
- Hair: Getting darker and filling in
- Eyes: Gigantic, and a steely, dark blue/grey
- Head: Enormous – outgrown all the newborn hats already
- Diapers: Newborn disposables, and also just started cloth!
- Clothes: Days are numbered on the newborn sleepers. Moving into 0-3 that is already alarmingly small.
- Likes: Chest naps, MAM pacifiers (sometimes), silly faces, diaper changes, Boppy lounger pillow, baths with big brother, looking out windows
- Dislikes: The car seat, being woken up by barking dogs, being woken up by a maniac toddler, sleeping flat on his back, being hungry for more than 0.5 seconds